Hello, moms of the world. Does anyone else feel like they just don’t relate well to babies & toddlers? I love Rachel with every fiber of my being & there are some things I absolutely love about this age (18 months) but I also have to admit that sometimes I really struggle. The tantrums are starting &- just like she did with her screaming fits as an infant- she reserves the vast majority of them for me. I know in some ways this is a compliment because it means she is most comfortable with me. After all, even as adults we typically save our “tantrums” for our spouses or significant others because they’re the people we feel the most comfortable with & we know they won’t just kick us to the curb even if we aren’t our most lovable. But it’s still hard, especially since I’m a very logical, pragmatic person & babies & toddlers are anything BUT logical & pragmatic.
Sometimes I just can’t help but look at other moms & feel like I’m on the outside looking in at all these women who just naturally know how to relate to babies & toddlers, meanwhile I’m over here like “I have no idea what I’m doing.” I know that we all struggle some days & no one is actually perfect, but I constantly hear moms say how the first few years are the “best times” & I just can’t help but feel like that isn’t going to be true for me. Trust me, I LOVE my time with Rachel. I am in no way rushing things. I know I will have loads of wonderful memories from these early years (I already do). Yet I just can’t help but feel like my time to really blossom as a mom is going to be when she’s a bit older. And is that really so horrible? I don’t think so.
Trust me, I love watching Rachel explore the world around her & find so much joy in the simplest things like twigs or leaves or blades of grass. I LOVE it. But I also can’t wait to be able to take her hiking in the mountains & to concerts & to really explore the world around us in a more adult way. I know she’ll lose her “innocence” as she gets older & while that is hard to accept I think it’s worth it because she’ll gain so much more. And is that really such an awful thing? I think not.
Please tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way. My anxiety likes to convince me that I’m crazy & that no one else feels like I do, but logically I know there have to be other moms out there like me- even if we are the minority.