Rural vs Urban: the Greatest Divide in Modern America

A month or two ago, a close friend of mine sent me an article that she thought I’d appreciate.  The article explains why Trump, despite his many obvious flaws, became such a viable presidential candidate, especially for folks in rural areas.  But more importantly the article addresses the massive cultural divide that separates rural & urban American which is largely either ignored or vastly over simplified.  As someone who has lived on both sides of this cultural divide, having grown up in a very rural area & now living in an urban area, I have witnessed this cultural divide in a very personal way.  In fact as I read this article, I kept thinking to myself “I could have written this about my own hometown.”  The truth is that when I’m in my hometown I worry I’m viewed as some kind of snob who chose to leave & now thinks she’s better because of it.  But when I’m home here in the city I worry I’m viewed as a bit of a redneck, albeit an intelligent, educated one.  Perhaps it’s all in my head & I’m just too self-absorbed to realize it, but I guess what it comes down to is that I never feel 100% at home anywhere. 

Sign reads: 'Small town ahead - don't believe a word you heard.'

As much as I am not thrilled to see Donald Trump as our next President (though I’d have been equally disappointed to see Hillary as our next President but for different reasons), I must admit I am horrified to see so many supposedly tolerant liberals suddenly categorizing anyone who voted for Trump as racists/misogynists/sexists/idiots.  These are the same people who constantly remind us that not all Muslims are terrorists & shouldn’t be treated as such just because a small fraction of them are.  And I absolutely agree with that sentiment.  However, it is very disappointing to see some of these same “tolerant” folks lumping anyone who voted for Trump into various unsavory categories without actually knowing anything about these folks.  Trust me, I am equally horrified that many of my own conservative, religious friends & family somehow rationalized voting for Trump.  It’s cognitive dissonance at its finest in my own mind.  But the fact of the matter is I know, love, & respect many people who voted for both Hillary & Trump, neither of whom I could find it in my own heart to elect, & my opinion on their character has not changed one iota based on who they chose to vote for.  I fully realize that many people truly felt like they were choosing between the lesser of two evils.  Furthermore, my husband & I didn’t even vote for the same person this year & yet it has not affected our relationship in any way.  So I figure if we can be married (& expecting a baby in just a few weeks) & not allow this to harm our relationship, what the hell is wrong with all these other people who are suddenly incapable of tolerating opposing viewpoints from people they don’t even know?MLK love

To return to the rural vs urban issue, when I was in college & even more once I moved to an urban area, I started realizing how much America’s inner city ghettos & rural America have in common.  The hopelessness, the poverty, the high teen pregnancy rate, the drug usage, the prevalence of single moms & the absence of fathers, the high school drop-out rate . . . All of these are major issues that both communities face.  The difference is that in rural areas instead of crappy apartments there are shitty trailers, & there are probably fewer actual gangs & hard drugs, though the violence is still alarming.  Just a few weeks ago, I was explaining this phenomenon to a coworker & somewhat jokingly stated “the rural areas just have less heroin.”  Just a few days later I found out a classmate of mine died of what was likely a heroin overdose & suddenly I ate those words.  The other glaring difference of course is that a lot poor folks in rural areas are white, & one can’t help but wonder if that is one reason they elicit less sympathy from the masses.  Obviously the population density is lower in rural areas so superficially things may seem different, but dig a little deeper & you’ll realize that these communities are facing many of the exact same issues that poor urban areas are facing . . . & often with even fewer resources to assuage & combat these problems.


Scenes like this are a dime a dozen in my hometown & in so many others like it.

It’s rare that I allow someone else to speak my views for me.  But when I do find that someone else has expressed my own thoughts so eloquently, I am happy to allow their words to speak for me.  So today I implore my readers to read the aforementioned article & seek to understand this very important & largely neglected issue.  I think the words that spoke to me the most, the words which had me nodding along the hardest, are these:

“In a city, you can plausibly aspire to start a band, or become an actor, or get a medical degree. You can actually have dreams. In a small town, there may be no venues for performing arts aside from country music bars and churches. There may only be two doctors in town — aspiring to that job means waiting for one of them to retire or die. You open the classifieds and all of the job listings will be for fast food or convenience stores. The “downtown” is just the corpses of mom and pop stores left shattered in Walmart’s blast crater, the “suburbs” are trailer parks. There are parts of these towns that look post-apocalyptic.

I’m telling you, the hopelessness eats you alive.

And if you dare complain, some liberal elite will pull out their iPad and type up a rant about your racist white privilege. Already, someone has replied to this with a comment saying, “You should try living in a ghetto as a minority!” Exactly. To them, it seems like the plight of poor minorities is only used as a club to bat away white cries for help. Meanwhile, the rate of rural white suicides and overdoses skyrockets. Shit, at least politicians act like they care about the inner cities.”left_a_small_town_,-20749

If you’re reeling over the results of this election & wondering what the hell is wrong with our country, I hope that reading this article will help you understand why so many people did vote for Trump & to appreciate that not everyone who voted for him is some horrible, hateful person.  Just like not everyone who voted for Hillary is some corrupt lifelong bureaucrat.  Also to the people leading violent protests against Trump, defacing historical monuments, & beating Trump supporters in the streets, please grow up & realize that your actions prove you’re just as intolerant & despicable as you say the people who voted for Trump are.bleed-red-lyrics

This is not a time to hate each other.  This is a time to remember the essential humanity that unites us all.  To end this post, I’d like to share one of my favorite songs which I think is especially germane at this point in history.  Lyrics are posted below.

Let’s say we’re sorry,
Before it’s too late,
Give forgiveness a chance
Turn the anger into water
Let it slip through our hands

We all bleed red,
We all taste rain,
All fall down,
Lose our way,
We all say words we regret,
We all cry tears, we all bleed red

If we’re fighting, we’re both losing,
We’re just wasting our time
Because my scars,
They are your scars & your world is mine

You & I, we all bleed red,
We all taste rain, all fall down, lose our way
We all say words, we regret,
We all cry tears, we all bleed red

Sometimes we’re strong, sometimes we’re weak,
Sometimes we’re hurt & it cuts deep
We live this life, breath to breath,
We’re all the same, we all bleed red

Let’s say we’re sorry before it’s too late

We all bleed red,
All taste rain, all fall down, lose our way
We all say words, we regret,
We all cry tears, all bleed red

Sometimes we’re strong, sometimes we’re weak,
Sometimes we’re hurt & it cuts deep
We live this life, breath to breath,
We’re all the same, we all bleed redall bleed red



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  2. I don’t have time before work to comment on everything in your post, but there are a couple of important points I’d like to make. Yes, when someone voted for Trump, they did indeed for racism and misogyny and hatred. Imagine hiring an HR manager at work, and you *know* that person will stop and frisk blacks, will grab women by the crotch, and will not allow any Muslims in for an interview, by extension that person representing you is also representing your values. Second, as Karl Popper said, we do not and should not be tolerant of intolerance. So, yes, those folks who are intolerant of those who voted in hate – they are expressing their intolerance for racism, misogyny and homophobia. And perhaps the saddest part of all this – those folks who voted for Trump did not vote for someone who would help them. Did they really think a man who has never lived like them will help them? I know, they point at the illegals as taking their jobs, but it was really people like Trump who shipped – and will continue to ship– jobs overseas. Those in rural America receive many subsidies (i.e. farm subsidies) that will now be on the chopping block. Did anyone bother to look at Trump and Clinton’s tax plan side-by-side? I doubt it. If you did, you’d see that folks like you and I will be getting off very easy, but those middle class Americans who really needed help? Nothing’s going to change for them. Had we had a better educational system, maybe all Americans could have better evaluated the candidates rather than falling for Trump’s rhetoric.


  3. First off all, let me thank you for this insight into rural America that I, as a European citizen, would never have gotten otherwise. The article you linked proved an interesting read. We are battling similar issues over here, although no direct comparison can be drawn (free healthcare and social security receiving a higher priority alleviate many worries, also having the legit option to choose between more than two political parties helps in keeping radicalization in check).
    Many of your points culminate into solid arguments that can’t be easily swatted away, reappearing like an annoying insect at inopportune times. I agree that a person’s character can’t be judged solely by looking at who they vote for. I understand that all of that pent up frustration eventually just blew the lid off of a quietly brewing stew that had been left unattended for too long. I also get that the current situation cannot stay the way it is, that honest recognition and substantial help from people in power is necessary.
    However, I believe there is a difference in voting for someone out of protest (or because you actually believe they might change things in your favor) and creating a cult around a conspiracy king who spreads false information and hate like it’s his second nature. And that is what I have seen happening way too often, people abandoning any and all reasoning, shutting themselves into a world of their own creation in which vaccines cause autism, birds are government drones, and gays should best be kept away by the threat of a rifle riddling them with bullet holes. Oh, and of course – a supposedly rigged election leading to an angry mob storming the capitol / white house.
    We have to distinguish between people wanting a civil discussion about their opinions based on scientific evidence and loose cannons out to cause as much harm to democracy as they possibly can.
    Believe me or not, the internet has allowed me to develop friendships with Americans both on the liberal and conservative sides, and we disagree on politics but can still have fun together because everyone treats each other with respect and dignity.
    Whether someone is Democrat or Republican, I do not care. Them being decent human beings, I do care about.

    Thank you for your attention,
    – J

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