Bad Mom Days


This is going to be word vomit because I’m having a rough day & I’m trying to bang this out before Rachel wakes up again.

Any other moms have bad mom days?  I know y’all must because it can’t just be me.  The last week or so has been a bit rough because Rachel is going through a nap transition in which she is slowly working down to one nap a day.  The problem is she gets up so early that sometimes she really does need a morning nap AND an afternoon nap- yet some days that afternoon nap just does NOT happen.  And that makes for one REALLY fussy toddler- & one really frustrated mama!

People are always telling me how happy & easy Rachel is which of course means at times like this when I’m struggling I constantly find myself thinking “Oh gosh, if this is what an easy toddler is like, how would I survive with a difficult one?”  Basically this is the exact same scenario I ran into when she was a newborn.  I felt like I was barely keeping my head above the water sometimes, yet people were always clamoring on about how easy she was.  So inside I was thinking “I’ll never make it if I have a difficult baby!”

thomas paine quote

He must have spent a lot of time arguing with toddlers. Ha!

I’m trying to remind myself that all moms struggle & that it’s ok if the baby/toddler phase isn’t my favorite.  Trust me, most of the time I really do enjoy Rachel’s current stage.  But it’s also really hard for me because babies & toddlers (especially young toddlers like her) do not have the capacity to understand logic & reason.  And if you know me at all, you know I am a very logical person . . .

So, as you can imagine, dealing with a person who is not capable of understanding logic & whose behavior is sometimes anything but logical can be quite a challenge.  On days like today I find myself feeling so inadequate because I feel like maybe I just wasn’t cut out to be a baby/toddler mom.  I feel like I’ll be an awesome mom when Rachel is older but right now I feel like other moms who really love babies & toddlers must be so much better than me.  I know that’s ridiculous & I must actually be doing a pretty damn good job or Rachel wouldn’t be so “easy & happy” like everyone tells me.  But it’s the way I feel right now.behind every kid

Then of course I start thinking about all the women I know who’ve struggled (or are still struggling) with infertility or who have had miscarriages.  And I feel so guilty for getting frustrated with Rachel when I know I should just be thankful I have her.  And trust me, I am very thankful for her!  However, that doesn’t mean that some days aren’t hard.  But the guilt is real, y’all.  mom guilt

Oh yeah, I also cut my finger while trying to cut a spaghetti squash this afternoon.  Thank goodness for a sweet neighbor who was able to come over & watch Rachel for a bit while I cleaned up my finger & got the bleeding to stop.  Clumsy-lina strikes again!

Ok, that’s it.  Just trying to decompress a bit so I can feel a bit more sane & face the rest of the day with a more peaceful brain.

 

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