Screw the Rat Race


Everywhere I look lately I feel like I see & hear people praising the idea of being busy.  “Oh, she has such a busy life but she still does xyz.”  “How have you been?”  “Oh, just so busy, you know!”  And it’s true: real life IS busy.  Yet part of me can’t help but wonder if all this busyness (is that a word?) is worth the stress it so often causes us.  I can’t help but feel like maybe we are missing out on the simple pleasures of life in our constant quest to always be DOING something.  I worry that our children are kept so busy with school & extracurricular activities that they’re missing out on the beauty of being children who don’t NEED to be busy all the time.  What it comes down to is I fear that many of us are so busy making a living (& I don’t mean just working) that we forget to make a LIFE.hustle.png

I’ve learned a lot over the past almost eight years of being a nurse.  But the most important thing I’ve learned is this- & it’s really quite simple: Life is short- way too short to be anything but happy as much as we can.  What I’m getting at is people don’t get to the end of their lives, whenever that may be, & think “Gosh, I really wish I had been busier.”  People often wish they had traveled more, spent more time with family & friends, or just experienced more things.  But they don’t usually wish they had worked more or generally been BUSY all the time.busy

Now if you know me, you know I am by no means lazy.  I’ve always been a hard worker at everything in my life, but that being said the older I get the more I value my “down time,” the more I realize the power & necessity of not always being busy rushing from one thing to another.  For our own emotional/mental well-being I think it is truly vital for all of us to have some time to just unwind & feed our souls.  For me that means making sure I have time to listen to music, play my flute/piano, read books, etc.  For others it might mean something else entirely & that’s ok.  As an introvert I truly value my alone time & now realize it is absolutely vital for my sanity.  And furthermore I realize it is not selfish or lazy to make that a priority in my life.self care

As some of you may know, in addition to being a nurse, I am also a Rodan + Fields skincare consultant.  I am about as a far as possible from a natural saleswoman but I truly love these products & what they’ve done for my skin.  Therefore I do enjoy sharing them with others & of course making a little extra money in the process.  But could I do a lot more with this business than I do?  Absolutely.  I could do what I’m “supposed” to do & message everyone on my friends list about the company.  I could carve out time in my day to constantly try to drum up sales.  But the truth of the matter is I just don’t have the mental energy for all that.  I’d either have to take time away from my family, stay up late or get up extra early, or take time away from my own self-care activities in my already limited alone time.  And frankly I’m not willing to do any of those things.  Obviously it would be a completely different story if I were truly strapped for cash & desperate for any extra income I could generate.  But thankfully I’m not.  To be clear, I don’t look down on anyone who works their R+F business (or any other direct sales gig) like a real business.  In fact I greatly admire them.  But it’s just not for me, at least not at this point in my life.  I need all the mental energy I can muster to care for my toddler & stay on track at work & home.  So if I don’t make as much money with my side gig as some others, that’s ok with me.  My sanity is more important in the end.rodan and fields

On a different note, I’ve been haunted lately by some words that were spoken to me many years ago when I was a teenager.  My boss at my first job told me more than once in no uncertain terms that I would never live up to my full potential in life if I didn’t become a doctor.  I’m sure he meant well but for many years those words hung over my head as I wondered if I was “wasting” my potential by being “just a nurse.”  But a full scholarship to nursing school was a hard thing to turn down . . . Plus I always planned to work just a few years as a bedside nurse & then go back to school to become an FNP which I always figured was just as good as being a doctor in my mind.

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Despite the challenges & frustrations of my career, I’m still glad I chose nursing over med school.

Well, here I am almost eight years out of nursing school, & the last thing I want to do right now is go back to school.  I graduated nursing school with a 4.0 GPA & I always thought I’d be one of the first ones from my class to go to grad school.  Yet I’ve seen many of my classmates go back to school, some of whom did not have the grades I did, meanwhile the thought of going back to school right now just makes me feel sick.  Sometimes it’s hard to see other advancing their careers while I remain “just a nurse,” but for me the extra stress & time away from my family wouldn’t be worth it right now.  In ten or fifteen years I may well change my mind.  But I work with NPs & I see the workload they carry home with them & the time it costs them away from their families.  And I simply don’t want that right now.  To be honest the longer I’ve been “just an RN,” the longer I am thankful to be “just an RN.”  And honestly, especially with the vulnerable population I serve, patients today need the smartest RNs possible.  As a nursing friend & I were discussing over dinner last night, just because you’re smart enough to do something, doesn’t mean you have to do it or that you should do it.  I have no doubt that I am smart enough to be an NP but I also have no doubt that it isn’t the right path for me right now.  And that’s ok.  My yardstick for success isn’t the same as everyone else’s.  And that’s ok too.sucess

The point of is this post isn’t to discourage people from going back to school or advancing their careers.  My point is simply that we need to ask ourselves what price we are paying for all of the busyness to which we so often commit ourselves.  If it isn’t costing you your mental health or time away from loved ones, then that’s great.  But if it IS costing you those things (& I suspect it is for many of us), I challenge you take a step back.  Stop & smell the roses a bit.  Consider what will be important to you when you reach the end of your life.  Remember that being busy isn’t a worthwhile goal in & of itself.  Being happy & mentally fulfilled is far more important.  Remember that success has different definitions for each of us- & that’s ok.  We aren’t all on the same path so there is no need to endlessly compare ourselves to others. walk two moons quote

I’ll end this post by sharing one of my favorite quotes from one of my all time favorite books, Walk Two Moons by Sharon Creech.  “In the course of a lifetime, what does it matter?”  I think about this phrase often & it helps me not to stress as much about everyday worries & fears while it also helps me to focus on the things that really DO matter in the course of a lifetime.  I challenge you to do the same.

Why Rodan & Fields?


Back in January I posted about joining Rodan & Fields as an independent skincare consultant.  My life has been a total whirlwind lately so I haven’t posted on here in ages but I’ve really been wanting to write a post exploring more in depth about why I chose THIS particular company.  Rachel just went down for a nap so I’m going to take advantage of this free time to share my story with y’all.  Because I’ve got other tasks I need to accomplish during her nap time this is going to be in bullet format & probably not as eloquent as I’d like but I’ll do the best I can.rodan and fields

  1. First & foremost, I joined Rodan & Fields because I had already been using the products for almost an entire year & I knew that these products really work.  This company isn’t a gimmick.  It was started by two world-renowned dermatologists (Dr. Katie Rodan & Dr. Kathy Fields) who created these products based on their extensive experience in the skincare field.  They are also extremely astute businesswomen who have built a billion dollar skincare company in a very short amount of time!  R&F products actually used to be sold in department stores like Nordstrom but the doctors realized that that business model was swiftly dying.  They knew e-commerce is where the money lies these days.  So they changed their whole business & decided to share the profits with independent distributors rather than big corporations!  Leading consultants in this business are everything from stay at home moms to nurses, doctors, lawyers, & teachers.  Being a saleswoman does NOT come naturally to me.  Hello, I’m the girl who HATED school fundraisers because I dreaded the thought of asking anyone to buy anything from me!  I never want to “burden” people or to make them think I’m only trying to make money off of them.  But when R&F’s Unblemish regimen cleared up my acne for the first time in almost two decades & gave me the clearest, most beautiful skin of my life, I knew I’d finally found something that was too good to keep to myself.  (Getting an extra discount on my favorite products for being a consultant is pretty nice too!)  Being an independent skincare consultant isn’t easy.  You do actually have to do the work to make a profit.  BUT these products are so effective that they really do sell themselves!rodan and fields products
  2. R&F’s business model is very simple.  A lot of MLM companies have a very complicated system for determining commissions.  And/or they require consultants to stock inventory, ship their own products, or sell a certain amount of products or recruit a certain number of new consultants each month in order to earn commission or continue to be a consultant.  R&F doesn’t do ANY of those things.  I don’t have to stock inventory.  I don’t have to ship orders (other than samples I CHOOSE to send to folks).  I don’t have to host parties.  I don’t have to recruit any other consultants.  I don’t have to sell a certain amount each month.  My life is way too busy to bother with all that stuff.  All I have to do is talk to people about our products, send them samples if they want some, & help them discover the best skin of their life . . . which leads right into my next point.Euromonitor #1 Skincare Brand in US 2017
  3. Great skin = greater confidence.  I have experienced this first hand after using R&F products, so one of my reasons for joining this business is the desire to help others achieve the same.  Furthermore, everyone has skin!  Not everyone wants jewelry, makeup, scented products, cleaning products, or nutritional supplements.  There is nothing wrong with selling any of those items, just to be clear.  I’m actually a customer of several other MLM companies who do sell those items.  But I’m going to be a real nerd here & share with you something I remember from history class back in high school.  (For my Appomattox folks, it was probably Mr. Servis’s tenth grade World History Part II class.)  In any case, I remember one of my history teachers talking about why the British empire was in the end much larger & more successful than the Spanish, Portuguese, French, or Italian empires.  The reason is that the British invested in wood & agriculture.  While these things don’t have the glitz & glamour of gold or silver, they’re essential items that people always need, regardless of the economy, war, or any other societal factor.  So while the British empire started slower, it actually grew to be the largest & most successful because it was so sustainable.  People might get tired of a lot of products they buy but no one is going to get tired of great skin.  And they’re never going to outgrow the need for quality skincare either.Euromonitor #1 Skincare Brand in North America
  4. Lastly, the most important reason I joined this company is to make it easier for me to continue working only part time as a nurse & thus be able to stay home with Rachel most days of the week.  I truly have no idea how full time working moms survive.  I’ve picked up some extra shifts at work lately & I’m definitely dragging because of it!  I’m not ready to give up my nursing career but I also LOVE the balance I have in my life only working part time.  However, I do miss the money I used to make working full time . . . The beautiful thing about R&F is that I can contribute some extra money to our family without being away from Rachel!  I can work this business anywhere!  All I need is a phone/computer with internet access.

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    Here’s my baby!

I’ll end this post with a link to my website where you can check out all of R&F’s amazing products.  If you have any questions about this business or our products, please comment on this post or, better yet, email me at rlcarterrn@gmail.com.  I look forward to helping you achieve the best skin (& longest lashes!) of your life- & the confidence that comes with that!

I’m in Business!


Those of you who know me outside of this blog may know that I am NOT a natural saleswoman.  I used to hate school fundraisers unless they were something really easy like candy bars because those basically sold themselves.  Otherwise I just wasn’t interested.  That being said, I’ve decided to become a Rodan & Fields saleswoman!  You can check out my website here.  But before you do so, read on to find out WHY I’ve decided to do something that comes so unnaturally to me.sales

Those of you who know me outside of this blog also probably know that I’ve struggled with acne for most of my life, since I was ten years old to be exact.  At various times I’ve tried various & sundry different creams & solutions, both OTC & rx.  I had moderate success with some & no success at all with others.  I even tried doxycycline, an oral antibiotic, for a few months a few years ago, & while I had reasonable success with that it was obviously not a long term solution.r and f

As someone who’s struggled with acne my entire teenage & adult life I wasn’t exactly shocked to find that pregnancy hormones were not kind to my face.  However, when my acne got even worse in the first few months postpartum, I was starting to panic.  Obviously I couldn’t go back on doxycycline while breastfeeding (& even if I “could” have, I wouldn’t have felt comfortable doing that).  I was getting desperate! regimen image

Well, it just so happened that a friend & former coworker of mine joined Rodan & Fields skincare company last January- one year ago today to be exact!  When she told me the success she had with the Unblemish regimen on her postpartum acne, I was naturally very intrigued.  Once I heard about the money-back guarantee, I was sold.  I had to give it a try.  After all, what was there to lose?'I can cure your oily skin or you could sell the drilling rights.'

I’ll be the first to admit I’ve always been terrible about sticking to a good skin care routine.  However, after investing a decent amount of money in the Unblemish regimen, not to mention with how bad my acne had gotten at that point, I had some serious motivation to follow the regimen religiously.  While I missed a few days here & there, overall I stuck to the routine exactly as instructed.  Within weeks, I noticed that my skin was softer & smoother than it had ever been in my whole life.  I also started to notice fewer breakouts.  Within two months, my acne was all but goneWithin six months I was down to using the full regimen only once or twice a week but still maintaining the clearest, most beautiful skin of my life.  

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My skin actually looked worse than this at times but this is the best picture I could find to show how my acne was before starting R&F’s Unblemish regimen

As the months passed I started using other R&F products as well, namely the Redefine multi-function eye cream & the Amp-MD roller in combination with the Intensive Renewing Serum.  The eye cream has made a huge difference in avoiding dark circles under my eyes (what mom doesn’t have those?), & the Amp roller & renewing serum are working wonders on the stretch marks on my tummy from my pregnancy.  christmas cartoon r and f

Over the past few months I’ve lost count of the number of people who have complimented me on my gorgeous skin.  As someone who struggled with acne for almost 20 years, trust me, those are not compliments I was used to receiving.  I’ve been contemplating joining R&F for months now, largely thanks to these compliments, but what really tipped me over the edge was when we visited my grandmother at Christmas.  Almost the first thing she said to me was “Your skin looks amazing.  What are you doing?”  At that moment, I realized it was time for me to join this phenomenal company because I’ve already become a bit of a spokeswoman for them anyway!forbes quote r and f

There are so many things I love about R&F.  Most importantly the products really WORK!  Secondly, there are no parties, no minimum monthly sales, no inventory, none of the typical sales shticks you see with most direct sales companies.  

If you’re not sure which regimen or product would be best for your skin, my website includes a handy tool to help you select the right one.  Just go to the website, scroll down to “Find your regimen,” & click “get started.”  After answering just a few simple questions about your skin, you can find the best skin regimen for you.

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And here’s my face now!  No makeup!

Questions?  Comment below & I’ll do my best to help you find the best skin of your life!