In case you haven’t heard there is currently a lawsuit in Pennsylvania regarding a teenage boy who was falsely accused of sexual assault. Because of the false accusations, he was fired from his job, spent over a week in juvenile detention, was bullied endlessly, & was subjected to home electronic monitoring. All based on accusations that later turned out to be complete lies! If that’s not horrifying enough, the five girls who started all this have not been punished at all. I don’t know about you but that makes me see about a thousand shades of red. Which is another way of saying it makes me not just angry but downright irate. If I had a son, I would probably be even more upset because I would be terrified this could happen to him someday.
Here’s the thing that I don’t understand about modern feminism (actually there’s a lot of things I don’t understand about it but this is the main one): why are we so quick to dispense with innocent until proven guilty when a man is accused of something? Why do we assume that women are inherently moral & truth-telling while men are inherently evil liars? Why do we think it’s right to “believe all women” simply because they are women? That’s just as absurd as believing all men simply because they are men, which is how the world used to operate. There is no justice in turning things upside down to try to make up for history. That’s just not how civilized society works, folks.
Furthermore why are men held accountable for their actions- sometimes one they didn’t even commit, like in this case- while women frequently are not? A perfect example is cases where both a man & woman are drunk & the man is charged with rape but the woman isn’t. That makes no sense to me. If they were both drunk, neither could truly consent! So basically they “raped” each other. It’s called poor choices, people, not actual rape/sexual assault. If you don’t like that, sorry, I’m not sorry. Clearly it’s a whole other story if someone spikes your drink or unwittingly gives you drugs & then takes advantage of your intoxicated state. That is undoubtedly evil & should most definitely be punished.
But these girls in Pennsylvania who have lied about sexual assault & ruined a boy’s life are getting off scot free. That’s absurd! In my mind that is not only beyond unfair but it is basically saying women aren’t responsible for their own actions- which is essentially saying we are not equal to men before the law! I don’t know about you, but that does NOT sit well with me at all. Is that not completely contradictory to the whole point of feminism? I thought the whole point of feminism is that men & women are intellectual equals & should thus have equal rights & responsibilities.
[As an aside, the people for whom I have the most sympathy right now are those who truly have been raped or sexually assaulted. They are having to hear about all these issues constantly in the media, as well as social media, which must be a horrible reminder of the trauma they have endured. I have not experienced these things but I have certainly been sexually harassed on plenty of occasions (sometimes by men in power over me) & all this talk has brought back some less than fond memories that I’d rather not think about. So I can only imagine how much worse it must be for those who have actually experienced sexual violence.]
There is no doubt that statistically more women have been raped or sexually assaulted & that a woman’s chances of experiencing these horrifying events is significantly greater than that of a man’s. But that does NOT mean we should dispense with innocent until proven guilty. That does NOT mean we should automatically believe all women even without a shred of evidence. That is just not how civilized society works, people.
With the Duke lacrosse case, the UVA case in Rolling Stone, the Brian Banks case (an NFL player who spent years in prison due to a false rape charge), the Jemma Beale case, & this current case in PA, among others, I am seriously worried that we are going to end up raising a generation of men who DON’T believe ANY women. And to me that is truly horrifying. As far as I’m concerned, any woman who falsely accuses a man of sexual assault or rape should be punished the same way the man would have been punished if he actually had committed that crime. Such women are only making things harder for the real victims out there which is truly tragic. And yes, I realize the number of fake rape charges is overall fairly small. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t important to address this issue. Just because something is rare doesn’t make it less serious.
Sexual assault & rape are horrifying. And there are definitely dozens of legitimate reasons why they are often unreported. But the current climate of “believe all women” & dispensing with innocent until proven guilty isn’t helping anything either. If anything it’s just antagonizing men & women against each other. And that is the last thing we need if we truly want to tackle these issues & make some headway in the fight against sexual violence.
Thank goodness for the old school feminists who helped get us the right to vote & own property, etc. But these modern hard core feminists have lost all sense of reason.
I am fully aware that writing this will possibly cost me some friends. I am fully aware that some women will probably call me sexist against my own gender. But frankly I don’t care anymore. This is way too important of an issue for me to remain silent & if that costs me some “friends,” so be it.